The idea of being confident and sexually desirable can be an important facet of the human experience, whether it be on a personal, private, or professional level, all of which are respectable and valid.  However, the idea of a person presenting themselves in a sexually explicit way has historically been shaped through the  cisgender, heterosexual (cis-het), masculine male lens which has created virulent social constructs. For example, the cis-het masculine male narratives often remove the self-autonomy from the sexualized body and create the notion that it is only acceptable for a cisgender female, most specifically, an "idealized" cisgender female to be sexualized. In that context, there is also the assumption that she only exists as an empty orifice for the cis-het male penis. 

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